1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:02,280 you're so articulate 2 00:00:04,900 --> 00:00:06,233 we should smile . War . 3 00:00:09,910 --> 00:00:11,940 Your English is so good . 4 00:00:14,300 --> 00:00:15,911 You're not like the others . 5 00:00:18,740 --> 00:00:20,907 What country were you really born in ? 6 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,990 Think about a time when someone said 7 00:00:24,990 --> 00:00:26,990 something to you about an aspect of 8 00:00:26,990 --> 00:00:28,823 your identity that made you feel 9 00:00:28,823 --> 00:00:32,470 degraded , insulted or less than person 10 00:00:32,470 --> 00:00:34,581 may or may not have known that it may 11 00:00:34,581 --> 00:00:36,248 have hurt you or the negative 12 00:00:36,248 --> 00:00:38,248 implications behind the statement . 13 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,380 Right ? Racial disparity doesn't always 14 00:00:50,380 --> 00:00:53,620 manifest in over ways microaggressions 15 00:00:53,620 --> 00:00:55,509 air everyday statements , whether 16 00:00:55,509 --> 00:00:57,580 intentional or unintentional , that 17 00:00:57,580 --> 00:00:59,700 communicate hostile , derogatory or 18 00:00:59,700 --> 00:01:01,850 negative stereotypes of historically 19 00:01:01,860 --> 00:01:03,860 underrepresented groups of people . 20 00:01:04,490 --> 00:01:06,657 I've noticed that sometimes I'm seeing 21 00:01:06,657 --> 00:01:08,920 this other . Maybe it's because of how 22 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:12,250 I speak . Hobbies are military position . 23 00:01:12,980 --> 00:01:15,147 Maybe it's my intentional relatability 24 00:01:15,170 --> 00:01:17,590 with other people , but I found myself 25 00:01:17,590 --> 00:01:19,790 in countless conversations where it 26 00:01:19,790 --> 00:01:21,790 appears I'm not seem like the other 27 00:01:21,790 --> 00:01:23,990 blacks . These conversations are 28 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,680 hurtful . One particular conversation 29 00:01:27,980 --> 00:01:30,147 I was told by a spouse of an Air Force 30 00:01:30,147 --> 00:01:32,258 leader that he didn't like that black 31 00:01:32,258 --> 00:01:34,650 Americans were called African American . 32 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,607 He went on to tell me that he's worked 33 00:01:37,607 --> 00:01:39,718 with countless Africans and they have 34 00:01:39,718 --> 00:01:41,940 such strong work ethic . They take care 35 00:01:41,940 --> 00:01:44,051 of their families and are very loving 36 00:01:44,051 --> 00:01:46,590 kind and gentle people . He felt 37 00:01:46,590 --> 00:01:48,368 African American had a negative 38 00:01:48,368 --> 00:01:51,410 implication on Africans . I took a 39 00:01:51,410 --> 00:01:54,000 couple of days . Think of how best to 40 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:56,487 share with him , that his comments are 41 00:01:56,487 --> 00:01:58,598 hurtful . They could be offensive . I 42 00:01:58,598 --> 00:02:00,487 didn't want to speak with so much 43 00:02:00,487 --> 00:02:02,598 passion or emotion or plans . Who was 44 00:02:02,598 --> 00:02:04,542 thought that I may not be gentle , 45 00:02:04,542 --> 00:02:06,764 loving or kind . When presented with an 46 00:02:06,764 --> 00:02:08,764 opportunity , I reminded him of our 47 00:02:08,764 --> 00:02:10,987 conversation and explained that while I 48 00:02:10,987 --> 00:02:12,820 knew he didn't hand any harm and 49 00:02:12,820 --> 00:02:14,764 sharing his thoughts with me , his 50 00:02:14,764 --> 00:02:16,764 comments were offensive . They were 51 00:02:16,764 --> 00:02:18,931 hurtful . Our relationship afforded me 52 00:02:18,931 --> 00:02:20,987 an opportunity to know more Pam than 53 00:02:20,987 --> 00:02:23,098 those comments , but with others that 54 00:02:23,098 --> 00:02:25,042 he makes sure his thoughts with he 55 00:02:25,042 --> 00:02:27,264 could create walls instead of bridges . 56 00:02:27,910 --> 00:02:30,021 I told him every individual should be 57 00:02:30,021 --> 00:02:32,132 given an opportunity to be seen as an 58 00:02:32,132 --> 00:02:34,243 individual . Instead of lumped into a 59 00:02:34,243 --> 00:02:36,354 group assumption . He explained to me 60 00:02:36,354 --> 00:02:38,577 that he knew what offended black people 61 00:02:38,577 --> 00:02:40,910 ended . His comments were not offensive . 62 00:02:40,910 --> 00:02:42,466 While deeply grieved by the 63 00:02:42,466 --> 00:02:45,570 conversation athletic . Sometimes I 64 00:02:45,570 --> 00:02:49,390 wish microaggressions are often 65 00:02:49,390 --> 00:02:51,680 times subtle , but they still cause the 66 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:53,680 same amount of damage to a person's 67 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:55,970 self identity and feelings of belonging 68 00:02:55,980 --> 00:02:58,280 to an organisation , especially for 69 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,150 underrepresented . Think of it this way . 70 00:03:01,640 --> 00:03:03,690 Being bit by over a dozen mosquito 71 00:03:03,690 --> 00:03:06,320 bites every day , multiple times a day 72 00:03:06,580 --> 00:03:08,636 is exasperatingly makes you wanna go 73 00:03:08,636 --> 00:03:11,090 crazy . And the Beatles , which to a 74 00:03:11,090 --> 00:03:13,201 person who was only bitten once a day 75 00:03:13,450 --> 00:03:15,540 since , like irrational anger , the 76 00:03:15,540 --> 00:03:17,429 person who was being consistently 77 00:03:17,429 --> 00:03:19,207 bitten then begins to wear more 78 00:03:19,207 --> 00:03:21,373 clothing , doesn't go outside and fear 79 00:03:21,373 --> 00:03:23,570 being bitten . This is what it's like 80 00:03:23,580 --> 00:03:25,691 for underrepresented groups of people 81 00:03:25,691 --> 00:03:27,747 who begin to hide ourselves and fear 82 00:03:27,747 --> 00:03:29,050 being be little for who we are .